Yippeee!! Oh, Sorry. (Mature Look)

I'm Twenty!Our family loves parties. We really do. We have tons of traditions that make each holiday and event special. Our Christmas is spread out from St. Nicholas Day on December 6th to Epiphany on January 6th, with many fun events in between (not the least being our traditional daily hunt for Joseph and Mary on their way to the Nativity scene).

Birthdays are no exception. We have traditions for how and what we eat for each meal (including breakfasts and desserts). We have traditions for our decorations, from the banner on the cake, to the scene on the table (generally with moss, ivy, ribbons, and origami characters).

We love to give gifts too. 80+ were given just to each other one Christmas, but we toned down after that. 😛

We love to go all out, but… it gets expensive, and it is tiring to have massive parties at every birthday. Seriously.

So we picked two birthdays that were our BIG birthdays. Those are the big party ones. The ones where we can have a bit of a bigger budget.

But which birthdays had valuable meaning that would justify it?

Traditionally, in a large number of nations, and historically, the 13th birthday had great significance, and rightfully so. That was when the child (supposedly) begins to put away childish things and become a man. That is when his body begins to kick in and mature, and his mind and spiritual development begin to develop more as well. So that was an easy choice for one.

But the other?

16 is when you get to drive (in the US at least). 18 you get to vote, sign contracts, (have legal adultery :P), join the military, etc. 21 you get to drink (in the old days you got to homestead too, but those golden ages are gone… * sniff *).

Bleah. Pretty poor reasons to have a big birthday if you ask me (even if you don’t ask me).

Does the Bible have anything to say on this point though?

Actually, it does. It names a specific age that is special to God in some way (it is rather obscure as to why it is special and exactly how it is special, but it is special).


The Bible has several different ways that it points twenty out as special.

Exodus 30:11-16 And the LORD spake unto Moses, saying,
12 When thou takest the sum of the children of Israel after their number, then shall they give every man a ransom for his soul unto the LORD, when thou numberest them; that there be no plague among them, when [thou] numberest them.
13 This they shall give, every one that passeth among them that are numbered, half a shekel after the shekel of the sanctuary: (a shekel [is] twenty gerahs:) an half shekel [shall be] the offering of the LORD.
14 Every one that passeth among them that are numbered, from twenty years old and above, shall give an offering unto the LORD.
15 The rich shall not give more, and the poor shall not give less than half a shekel, when [they] give an offering unto the LORD, to make an atonement for your souls.
16 And thou shalt take the atonement money of the children of Israel, and shalt appoint it for the service of the tabernacle of the congregation; that it may be a memorial unto the children of Israel before the LORD, to make an atonement for your souls.

(Notice that this is not a tax of any sort: it is a ceremonial offering, just to be clear on that hehe.)

Numbers 1:45 So were all those that were numbered of the children of Israel, by the house of their fathers, from twenty years old and upward, all that were able to go forth to war in Israel;

Over and over again twenty is the age from which men were expected to go forth to war (with exceptions for fear, betrothal, marriage, etc.).

Numbers 32:10-12 And the LORD’S anger was kindled the same time, and he sware, saying,
11 Surely none of the men that came up out of Egypt, from twenty years old and upward, shall see the land which I sware unto Abraham, unto Isaac, and unto Jacob; because they have not wholly followed me:
12 Save Caleb the son of Jephunneh the Kenezite, and Joshua the son of Nun: for they have wholly followed the LORD.

This is perhaps the most important mention of the age of twenty. This time it was a matter of life and death. God was perfectly able to divide it based on plenty of other things, but He chose to divide the nation evenly by this age.

So twenty is an age of maturity, of manhood, of responsibility, and of achievement.

Thirteen is when we are to begin to put away childish things, and begin to become a man.

Twenty is when we are to finish putting them away, and become a man.

So we have seven whole years to learn, to grow, to cast off, and to build up. We don’t wait until we turn twenty to become a man: we finish a seven year process. And a very arduous and grueling process it can be.

But it is not only worthwhile. It is essential, it is crucial, it is vital.

So does becoming twenty make you more mature? No. It is merely a date to measure your maturity by.

And a handy birthday to have a really BIG party on. 😀

How Immature of You!

Welcome to my second guest post! This one is done by one of my other closest friends on the internet, a man of many names. I know him best as Neil of Erk, because that is what I first met him as (on Holy Worlds). He is also known as Jordan Wright, and as the author of his blog, Beware the Darkness, where I recently did a guest post for him. I am honored to now post his article on something which I consider to be of prime importance.

So without further ado, welcome Neil of Erk!


Most, if not all, of the people who read this post probably desire to be mature. The difference is mainly in our perceptions of mature people, and what we mean when we use the word “mature”. I would like to briefly cover several different forms of maturity, and then discuss the final, and most valuable, form of maturity: Spiritual maturity.

First, there is physical maturity. This “maturity” is largely relative, but clear in certain areas. A child, for example, is generally to be considered physically weak, in need of physical support, and is clearly still working on mastering hand-eye coordination. A young man is often said to be in “the peak of physical condition”, “fit”, or “healthy”. Such young people are usually strong and well coordinated. This is generally what we mean by physical maturity. Older people sometimes said to have reached “a ripe old age”, a statement that refers to a fruit that has ripened.

There is also mental maturity. Children are usually poor logicians; the wise and sage elders are often the masters of logic. Children usually have difficulty understanding scientific concepts, while those “over the hill” seem to be the greatest scientists. Mental maturity is the most intangible form of maturity, because it is often based on our own personality type, and other such relative factors, which cause us to compare other persons to our self.

The greatest, and second most tangible, form of maturity is spiritual maturity. It is my personal belief, based on Biblical and natural principles, that there are three stages of spiritual life, and when a person is fulfilling their current role in these three stages, they are to be considered mature.

When a child is born into the world, they are also born into submission, the first stage of a long walk through life. During the time of submission children and youths are like untamed colts, to be broken to the will of the Lord, so that they may serve him better. This is a period of weakness. We serve, and slave, and are not to question, merely to do, for in doing is learning. The lessons of submission form the building blocks of the next stage of our lives.

When a young man or woman is fully submitted to their parents and the Lord, then they ought to be considered “adult” in their behavior. At this point the path men will walk becomes different from the path woman will walk, mostly in timing, but also in direction.

When a young man has been fully broken, God considers him ready for his tasks, and empowers him with the spiritual powers to perform these tasks. This marks the entrance to manhood, as well as the departure from submission and the entry into the stage of strength. This is not to say that the lessons and rules of submission change, but a man’s place in the world has changed. He is not quickly becoming an authority. This is the path of strength, and its lessons and trials will consume most of a man’s life.

The journey of strength is different for a woman, because while she may become an authority figure as a parent, she will also be in submission to her husband, rather than a boss at the office, or some other employer. This might almost be considered a blessing, because a woman will be constantly reminded of the lessons of submission, and yet, will still have many authority positions.

Finally, we come to sacrifice. Usually women enter this stage before men, but it appears similarly for both.

A person who is fully committed to the stage of sacrifice has reached the age where they must let go of the gifts they have been given. Eye sight fades, hearing become unclear, the limbs move slowly, even the mind is effected. But that alone is no sacrifice, it is just loss.

Sacrifice is even more. Not only are the elderly loosing their gifts and strengths, but those who are wise begin spend what little strength they have left on the younger generation: Pouring out their strength and wisdom to those farther behind on the path. The leader becomes the advisor. The warrior becomes the teacher.

Now, I might argue that those who reach the stage of sacrifice are the mature, but that’s not how I see it. Allow me to explain.

Each stage has a sort of “Code of Honor” behind it. Submission, Strength, Sacrifice, they all have a code and set of concepts that guide you through the stage. I believe those that truly understand and follow these “codes” are the mature.

The youth who is truly submitted to authority. The adult who is boldly using their spiritual gifts, wisely ordering those who have been placed under them. The elderly, gently and strongly giving away that spiritual power, giving up leading for advising, strength for sacrifice.

These people, they are the mature.

You will do well to learn from them.

World Geography Fractalling


If you aren’t already familiar with the term Fractalling, shame on you, and go read my introductory post on it. 😀

This article is to show you how to fractal out a world’s geography. A daunting, but well worthwhile task.

First off, what is necessary in a world’s geography? How complex does it need to be? Well, if you take one look at Earth’s geography, you immediately see that it will be next to impossible to replicate that level of detail in any world you concoct. Thankfully you don’t need to.

But many fantasy authors make ridiculously small worlds devoid of global detail. They might be good at plotting a nation’s geography, but they try to take the same fractalling methodology from their nation development and apply it to global geographical development, and it breaks down very rapidly.

So here is how you do it right, to get the most amount of detail possible (without relying on random map generators: we want design and creativity here) with the least amount of effort.

First off we need some big shapes. Really big. What are these big shapes for? They are for the general layout of the continents. Very basic. Stick to triangles, or at the most squares. Huge ones, each covering about half of your globe. The pattern for Earth’s is two triangles, points down, for reference. Because of this simple format for Earth, it is pretty easy to change it up. On one world we did a diamond, and then a line next to it.

Then you go break those up. First skew, and then shatter them into a couple pieces each. Keep long straight lines at this point. Now is also when you decide about how many continents you are going to have. Stick in the 4-10 range, as beyond those points makes them either too small or too simple. You don’t need one shape for each continent yet though.

Now drop the shapes: we are going into a new mode. Lines!

This is a fun type of shape fractalling. Based only very loosely on your earlier shapes, draw a bunch of lines showing the essence of the land and its directions. This part is more vector based, rather than mass based, if that help you any or makes any sense. They can cross, curve (but not squiggle yet), intersect, or run off in weird directions. Be imaginative.

Now merge the two sets with squiggly shapes outlining each of your continents. Base them off of both of the previous stages. Remember at this point, and keep it in mind for the rest of the development, that the top of your square map is stretched out because you aren’t drawing this on a globe. Unfortunately. Just take it into consideration. 🙂

Now you can break those continents up into various islands (especially the ones that are fragmented like the Pacific Isles and Oceania), think Europe and the coasts of the Asian continent. Get the rough drafts first, of course, and then move on to the next step.

In this one, zoom in to one continent, shaping and molding it. Pay close attention to the way that it was made (glacial, volcanic, etc.) because this effects the coastline and the shapes of the mountains. Get an idea of the mountain ranges, sketching them into the land mass with lines like you did before with the continents. Do this with each continent.

Now zoom back and look artistically at how the whole thing balances and looks together. Tweak the orientation of them to each other. Stretch, squish, grow, splatter, simplify, etc.

So now you have a really good base to build off of. You can now take this and start your history, and add on as that dictates. Cities, etc. Go have fun!

What Do I Do??


I have a problem.

I consider it to be a big problem. Others might not, but I do.

I can’t talk to teenagers.

That’s it.

“But wait!” you say, “I am a teenager, and you talk to me all the time!”

Well, yes, that is true. But you are on the internet. 😛

Perhaps I should say ‘connect’ instead. I want to add value to those I talk to, and I want to connect with their value: I want to learn what they have learned. I have a purpose in my conversations.

Perhaps that is why when I walk up to a group of talking teenagers (even at my church), they stop talking and wander off.

Or maybe it is the beard. Whatever.

When I corner them and ask them what they are interested in, they clam up: they go dry. If I ask a group of them what they were talking about, they don’t know. If I ask them what they would like to talk about… They. Have. No. Clue.

It is embarassing walking up to them, because I can’t get the purpose out of my stride, and I scare them.

I can talk to the adults with ease. On the internet and off.

I can talk to rebelutionaries. Easily.


But I can’t talk to my own kind… or are they my kind?

They react to me like I am an adult, and they don’t connect with me.

Maybe because I interact with adults on their level. Maybe my best friends and buddies (in face-to-face communication) are 3-4 times my age.

Maybe it is because I actually have a purpose in life, interests, and dreams. Maybe?

But whatever the reason why, I want to connect with them. I have a passion to reach out to them. I want to touch their lives. I want to share what I have learned with them. I want to learn from them.

That is why I care.

But I don’t know how.

I am sure at least some of you, my dear readers, you who know how to think, have this same problem. I know some of you have the opposite problem: you can’t break into the ring of adults.

But how do you break into the ring of teens?

None of our family has been able to, not even enough to reveal our consummate weirdness. So that isn’t what is scaring them off.

So I am asking you, my treasured online friends: How can we connect with our age group? How do you who are adults reach us?

Thank you.

Humility AND Self-Esteem??

I would like to welcome Carissa Mann to the writing end of my blog. She has been a good friend and a helpful editor in my many projects, not the least this blog. So I am honored to have her do a guest post here.

Carissa is the oldest of seven, homeschooled, rebelutionary, and can be feisty at times (says me). She blogs regularly and infrequently at Lily of the Valley and Rejoice Always (among other places).


Reading in E. M. Bounds works on prayer (again!) I read about prayer and humility. His definition of humility is “to have a low estimate of ones self…” He includes some great little poems about humility:

“Never let the world break in,
Fix a mighty gulf between;
Keep me humble and unknown,
Prized and loved by God alone.”

“Let the world their virtue boast,
Their works of righteousness;
I, a wretch undone and lost,
Am freely saved by grace;
Other title I disclaim,
This, only this, is all my plea,
I the chief of sinners am,
But Jesus died for me.

“O that now I might decrease!
O that all I am might cease!
Let me into nothing fall!
Let my Lord be all in all.”

Wow! That is how I want to be! Sadly, I find I fall quite short.

Thinking about this subject of humility, I was sitting at the table doing… something, and I heard Zig Ziglar talking to Papa. (Okay, so it was a recording!) Anyway, he was talking about self-esteem. And I, being ever so intellectual, was thinking, How can you possibly be both humble and esteem yourself well?

And, being the wise and curious person that I am, (haha) I asked my dear and very wise Papa just that. (Well, I didn’t say those exact words…)

Well, being the wonderful Papa that he is, he shut off Mr. Ziglar (sorry Zig!), and explained to me that we should realize that God made us, and that he created us in His image. Therefore, to look down on ourselves would be to look down on one of His creations. So to a Christian, Self-esteem is really God-esteem. The only reason we are worth anything is because God created us and loved us and saved us. Without Him, we are utterly, completely worthless, helpless, and unsaved.

So I think you can figure out how that works out. We are humble because we realize that we are worthless and can’t save ourselves, and deserve the wrath of God. But we esteem the work that God has done in creating and saving and loving us.

Now that we hopefully have a clearer picture of how this all works out in theory, here is a practical example:

One case where you need both humility and “self (God) esteem” is when you are teaching someone. (This example is also from my Papa)   If you have an attitude of just “humility” you’ll be like, “I’m a sinner, I can do nothing, I’m terrible at this, we might as well all go home.” If you just have “great self esteem” you will be like, “Oh, I have this humility thing down just right. Y’all just watch me and you’ll see how to do it. I am always humble.” If you have both mindsets, you can tell them openly that you still struggle with this, but by the grace of God, you have been able to make progress in this area, and you’d like to share what you’ve been taught with them.

I don’t know about you, but I struggle more with pride than with having a low view of my self. 🙂 So, how do we gain more humility?

There are many ways we can humble ourselves; For example, admitting that you were wrong about something and asking forgiveness, taking a younger sibling’s advice and correction (this one is particularly hard for me), not taking/seeking recognition for something you’ve done, and so on. Also, the more we learn about God and how BIG He really is, the more we will gain a proper view of ourselves.

Hopefully that made some sense! Feel free to add your own thoughts in the comments!

How to Maintain the Distance

My last article was about how we need to be able to treat each other as siblings in Christ, removing sexual and marital connotations and assumptions from our communication.

This article is about what you are supposed to do when someone else does not do this.

In other words:

How to tell them to stop flirting.

The main reason why I am doing this is because of a thread in the Rebelution forum. The girls are asking the guys several questions (I helped moderate those questions haha) regarding respect. Therefore, I will be mainly talking to the girls. This is one of the questions:

What is a respectful way of saying, “I don’t like you, stop flirting with me!!!”

There are two key words here: Respectful, and Flirting.

Flirting, as I define it, is an action that is intended to convey a sexual and or marital meaning and hopefully elicit a reciprocal action that also conveys a similar meaning.

This can vary from an out of place compliment like: “Have you died before? Because that looks like a resurrection body to me…” to: “Hey… I would work 7 years for your sister… but I would work 7 more years for you” to: “Do you need prayer? Because I am certainly willing to lay hands on you” to touching or hugging you inappropriately to other more disgusting things that I do not like to mention (or even think about).

(Thanks to Felicity for posting those pick up lines on facebook.)

Now, there are really only a couple kinds of guys who would even think about saying these kinds of things. One is bad, the other is nervous, but really doesn’t want to deep down (and is possibly thus prone to repentance). Both are weak and perverted. They each respond differently to your reactions to their advances, although thankfully you don’t need to change your responses depending on which one a guy is.

If a guy does something minor, like being too personal or forceful in a compliment, be cold. Tell him that you do not appreciate the manner in which he said what he said (or what he said at all for that matter). Let him know plainly that he crossed a boundary he should not have crossed, then walk away.

That is stage one.

Stage two depends on what he does. If he stays away, all is well and good. If he comes after you and apologizes sincerely, accept it kindly, and then go on.

If he persists then and tries to defend himself, continues what he was saying, or if he repeats the action later, or if he crosses a greater boundary (such as using either of the last two above lines or worse), even if it is the first time, then you go straight to stage two.

Stage two consists of three parts.

  1. Slap him, and leave.
  2. Tell your parents, especially your father about it, and if possible another trusted mentor.
  3. Do not hang out with him anymore.

That sounds rather extreme, and a bunch of you (boy or girl) are going to disagree with me, but hear me out.

Now, I realize that you might not understand what I mean by slapping him. This is understandable. People don’t really do it anymore, even though the drop in morality renders the action more necessary, and this is a shame.

A slap is when you hit someone’s face with the flat of your hand.

There are a couple kinds of slaps. There is a playful slap, and there is a serious slap. Slaps are also different depending on who is administering the slap. A slap from a guy to a guy is dramatically different from a slap from a girl to a guy.

In the old days if a guy slapped a guy, it was either a challenge to combat (read: death threat), or a dire insult, sometimes these were equivalent. Nowadays, it is generally just a really strong insult. Very demeaning.

If a girl slaps a guy, that is even more demeaning, especially when done in a playful way. If done seriously, it has a different meaning.

So why am I telling you to slap him if it is demeaning? You thought you were supposed to respectfully tell him to back off?

It is because you aren’t. You don’t respect him that much. It is dangerous to you and to him if you don’t slap him. It makes him back off (I will talk about what you do later if he doesn’t), and it gives him an opportunity to learn a lesson. It puts his actions in a new light, and he just might see that he was doing something very serious rather than fun. This is especially true of the nervous guy: this may be one of his last chances at liberty from perversion.

I can say this because I have been on both sides: I have been a pervert, and I have been a righteous young man. And I know what it is like to be in that pit. I wish I had been slapped by a girl.

Now, as I said, I would not be a bit surprised if you have no idea how to slap a guy.


I will show you how.


The next step is just as crucial, and in fact, more so. You need to be protected from further advances by this young man. Stage Three (when a guy persists after you have slapped him) is not in your hands, it is the part of the men around you to take care of it. You don’t turn to your peers to protect you though: you turn to your mentors, and they either take care of it themselves, or they ask others to as well. If they don’t, keep finding and asking mentors until they do!

So what are the guys supposed to do? (Perk up your ears guys!)

Punch him.

I am dead serious.

If a guy persists after you have slapped him, at that time, or any time thereafter, he needs to be taken down. In the old days he could have been killed, but we won’t go there (if you are curious, read some good Westerns).

That is why, as a girl, you need to always be in the company of more than one trusted young man willing to stand up for you, or none at all (meaning you are with a mentor or two and some other girls).

That is why, as a young man, you need to stand up for young women who want to be stood up for (and even the ones who don’t want it, they just might learn too).

If you aren’t sure about how to take care of a guy that way, guys, let me know. I would be happy to demonstrate. 😀

Red and White Hearts

1 Timothy 5:1-2 Rebuke not an elder, but entreat [him] as a father; [and] the younger men as brethren;
2 The elder women as mothers; the younger as sisters, with all purity.

I was going to use the above verse to talk about how we ought, as young men, to treat our sisters in Christ. But when I began to examine it for my discussion, I noticed something that I had never before noticed, and which at first sight renders it unusable for my purpose (and for the purpose that most people quote it for).

Most of the time you hear the last bit quoted all by itself (not good practice). So we forget what we are supposed to be doing with the younger women in all purity. I always assumed it was everything, until I looked at the whole verse (Yes, I know, bad Jay for forgetting to read the whole verse until now).

The context is that of rebuke. We are not supposed to rebuke those we are not in authority over, but rather entreat them in various ways depending on who they are. Treat them all as family: fathers, mothers, brothers, sisters…

But wait: there it is again. The other three types of people are just given a role to model your entreaty after, but the younger women get an extra instruction: “with all purity.”

Now, this is talking to Timothy, not to, say, some girl named Deborah or Ruth (or whatever), so I would assume that the reciprocal is also true: young women are to entreat young men as brothers in all purity. I see no reason to not assume that, so this would apply to both genders.

Now think about it: if we are to treat them with purity when we are entreating them to change their ways to conform more closely to the Bible, then how much more ought we to treat them with purity in every other form of interaction with them (or in our communications about them)? Truly, when you are entreating someone to change their ways, there are many pitfalls into which one can easily fall and hurt both you and the other person, and so this injunction is well placed. But I see it as also setting a standard which applies across the board in our interactions with our peers (age-wise) of the opposite sex.

So what does it mean to treat them as a sister (or brother) in all purity?

The word ‘purity’ there is hagneia, meaning the quality of cleanliness, especially chastity. It comes from hagnos, which means innocent, modest, perfect. So let us take the two key words here and turn to Webster’s 1828 (with unrelated definitions removed for the sake of brevity):

1. Pure from all unlawful commerce of sexes. Applied to persons before marriage, it signifies pure from all sexual commerce, undefiled; applied to married persons, true to the marriage bed.
2. Free from obscenity.
While they behold your chaste conversation. 1 Pet 3.
3. In language, pure; genuine; uncorrupt; free from barbarous words and phrases, and from quaint, affected, extravagant expressions.


2. Cleanness; freedom from foulness or dirt; as the purity of a garment.
The purity of a linen vesture.
3. Freedom from guilt or the defilement of sin; innocence; as purity of heart or life.
4. Chastity; freedom from contamination by illicit sexual connection.
5. Freedom from any sinister or improper views; as the purity of motives or designs.

So we have here an absence of any sinful motive or action, and especially absence of any sexual connections.

These are pretty obvious, but in practice they can get pretty elusive. Both genders immediately start foaming at the mouth with questions about this situation and that situation, can I do this, or is that too far, etc. It makes your head spin.

But there are several things that are very simple that we can derive from this passage and these definitions, and then use those as principles to apply to our ‘sticky situations.’

One – We ought to treat people of the opposite gender differently.

That should be obvious to all of you. If it isn’t, and this comes as a shock, go read those verses again, as well as the first few chapters of Genesis, and if you still don’t get it, come talk to me.

How are we to treat them differently?

Therein lies the rub. The answer to this question used to be almost as obvious as the fact that girls and boys are different. But culture has blurred the lines so much, and the church has followed suit so ably, that everyone is very confused. It is very hard now to find a mentor who is able to tell you the right answers to your situations. But they are worth finding, and worth the effort. So my answer here is mainly: Go get a good mentor. Other than that, just hold on and be patient– I might drum up some advice for you before this article is over. 🙂

Two – We ought to be unselfish in our interactions with people of the opposite gender.

Again, this should come as no surprise (all these principles really ought not to surprise any of you actually). But again what this means in practical life becomes blurred because of our worldly culture. A lot of guys go and ‘unselfishly’ lay their heart at a girl’s feet (or vice versa) and then wonder later (after both their hearts get hurt or broken) why I say they were selfish (amendment: disgustingly selfish).

Three – We ought to be devoid of sexual… everything in our interactions with people of the opposite gender (or any gender 😛 ).

That includes our thoughts and our communications with others about people of the opposite gender (we already knew that too).

Now here is where I can start giving advice (I love giving advice… I wonder why?). 🙂

Nowadays, love is so mixed up that people cannot separate it from everything sexual. This is opposite to the Bible’s way of thinking. You are supposed to love your sisters and brothers very closely, without any tinge of the presence of any sort of sexual connotations. And everyone else too (one of these days I need to post a rant on homophobia…).

And here is where the title of this post comes in: White and Red Hearts.

This is how I separate these two kinds of love. Now, when you get married, you are commanded to have both hearts involved: red and white. Before you get married, you are commanded to have the white heart, the heart of purity, for everyone.

They are both hearts, but one is fired with sexual and possessive passion, the other only with unselfishness. When you can separate these two, life gets simpler… until things get confusing again. 🙂

What are your thoughts? Did that make sense? How do these two hearts look in real life?

Everyone Communicates…

…But Few Connect.

Well I just finished Everyone Communicates, Few Connect by John Maxwell. I am almost ashamed for getting such a good book for free from BookSneeze, and even though I wasn’t required to give a positive review, that is the only kind I can give it.

Out of the hundreds of books that I have read that are really good, this one is definitely in the top ten. John Maxwell brings Biblical, Christian, practical, applicable, powerful, and profound principles, tactics, illustrations, and humor together in this book with a vital message: how to connect with everyone you come into contact with.

Connecting is the most important thing you can do in any relationship (family, spouse, parents, boss, co-workers, subordinates, clients, everyone). And every single step that John Maxwell gives you here will by itself revolutionize the way you connect. Integrating them all is hard work, but it is worth it. Five stars isn’t enough: this book is crucial for your life.

Dust Love Come


Here is a poem I wrote a while ago. Let me know what you think. I don’t write much poetry. 🙂

Stifling my spirit
Broken, and chained, coming loose
When will my heart be wholly unified with His own?
His sweet Spirit here
Weak and wounded, yet, am able
Carried on by the strength of His Word and His presence.
Give up
He will take you there
Trust Him and rest in His greatness
Open your life and your soul to His great benevolence!

What do you think? Did you catch the pattern? Did you understand it? Was it good? I wrote a tune for it to be sung to as well, but it isn’t what I want. If any of you would like to try and set it to music that would be cool. 😉